Because when you’re dating online, which is an extremely competitive medium, you need every advantage you can get.A great username is a differentiator – a unique brand name – something that completely sets you apart from every other person on a dating site.And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?
A common mistake is trying too hard to sound sexy and instead just sounding like the kind of person who frequents sex chat rooms.
As someone who has been an online dating coach since 2003, I’d venture to guess that I’ve not only seen more usernames than just about anyone on the planet, but I’ve written more of them as well.
Why do I think that usernames make a difference, when everyone knows that it’s all about the profile and photo?
So, for instance, if you like to ski and like to cook, your user name could be Skiing Chef.
Right off the bat, you get a sense of what this person is all about." Keep in mind that this is a name that might stick as a nickname, too, so nix options like Baddabing or Teddy Bear Boy. "A profile without a photo means one of two things to a woman: in a relationship or not so attractive," says Jane Coloccia, author of Confessions of an Online Dating Addict.